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Holiday Blog Tour

Join The Holiday Blog tour!

You can read some up-and-coming, some bestselling and some soon-to-be best-selling authors. And they’ll get you in the holiday spirit!

We have something for everyone, from poets to fiction writers and some memoir folks are coming to party too.

And if you’re a really good reader, some will have a present for you. And if you’re a super good reader, and read all the stories, there’s a present for you, too. But you have to wait until the end.

It started on December 2nd but it is not to late to join the party.

Here’s the full list:

Dec. 2 Julia Amante
Dec. 7 Lupe Mendez
Dec. 9 Maria Ferrer
Dec. 11 Toni Plummer
Dec. 12 Mayra Calvani
Dec. 14 Thelma Reyna
Dec. 16 Regina Tingle
Dec. 19 Kim Brown
Dec. 20 Gwen Jerris
The Writing Life

New Alert!!!

I am so excited that Christi McGuire at Witty Words chose my blog for a Liebster Award. Liebster is a German word that means dearest, beloved or favorite. This award is from fellow bloggers and must be given to blogs that have fewer than 200 followers. This is a great way for the blogging community to connect and share blogs that we have enjoyed.

Here are the requirements that come with this award:

1. Show your thanks to the blogger who gave you the award by linking back to them. (Thanks,  Christi)

2. Reveal your top 5 picks for the award and let them know by leaving a comment on their blog.

3. Post the award on your blog.

Helenadornmentsblog Helen writes about glass art and other crafts. She brings out my inner crafter.
Work-in-Progress Leslie writes about the creative process and all things literary. She’s my weekly literary writing boost.
Diana’s  Notebook Literary Musing  Diana is a memoirist, essayist, poet and teacher. She writes about writing and life.
DeborahGraceStaley Debbie writes about writing, life and living with depression. She is also the author of the Angel Ridge Series.
101 Books Robert Bruce is a making his way through 100 Time Magazines greatest English-speaking novels. I really enjoy his prespective and the way he starts a dialogue about books.
I’m grateful for each of these blogs. Thank you all for sharing your life and ideas with me.
Kim
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Monday’s Motivating Word

GRATITUDE

It seems cliché to say be grateful on the Monday before Thanksgiving. But for some reason this word keeps coming to my mind. Perhaps it is because as I head into the holiday season my eyes are more open to those around me who are less fortunate. I see how much I take for granted. I want to begin this busy week of preparation acknowledging the many ways God has blessed me.

And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ

Ephesians 5:20 NLT

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Reading and Ruminating – Krik?Krak!

Lately, I’ve had a lot of free time on my hands so I decided to volunteer at a local shelter for women. I thought it might be helpful if I taught a writing class, but the program didn’t really lend itself to that type of thing.  I went to the volunteer orientation nonetheless. There were several other women there asking questions that frankly bored me. I began to think I had made a mistake until the director explained the role of the volunteer as inviting the women to share their stories in a non-threatening relationship of mutual trust. It reminded me of the role of the writer. It’s our responsibility to be the voice of those who can’t speak for themselves and to share their difficult stories.

 

Edwidge Danticat does just that in her book Krik? Krak! She weaves several short stories into a larger commentary on the communal strength of the Haitian women. Though each woman’s story is capable of standing alone, the passage below, from “Epilogue: Women Like Us”, unifies the collection:

 

 

When you write, it’s like braiding your hair. Taking a handful of coarse unruly strands and attempting to bring them unity. Your fingers have still not perfected the task.

 

Each story is “a handful of coarse unruly strands”. Danticat works through the pain each woman’s suffered by exposing the cruelties and inhumanities of the experiences. Writing about these incidents is much like the yanking and pulling it takes to bring order to  “coarse unruly” strands of hair. When you begin to examine incredible loss and heartache your emotions become “coarse” and “unruly”. You have no control over where they will take you or the depths in which it will affect your own soul.

The phrase, “Your fingers have still not perfected the task”, speaks to the fact that no matter how many times you have braided your hair, you still have to go through the process of combing through the tangles and braiding each individual braid. There is no shortcut or fast track. It takes time and it is painful. As Danticat combs through the horror of boat full of Haitians sinking off the coast of the Bahamas or the desperation of a father committing suicide because he can’t provide for his family, the reader is able to see a more complete picture of brutality inflicted on the Haitian people. And in many ways the atrocities are things that are familiar to the Haitian people because they happen over and over again. However, it’s impossible to get used to it or to “perfect the task” of making sense of tragedy.

The simile of writing like braiding also blends in the cultural aspect of Danticat’s story. Braided hair is a sign of beauty and order for the Haitian woman. If a woman is able to tame her hair and bring order to chaos she is revered as beautiful. By combing through the experience in writing, Danticat is able to reveal the beauty of the woman.

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Dandicat, Edwidge. Krik? Krak! Vintage: New York, 1996. Print.

The Writing Life

Flip-Flop State of Mind

Two weeks ago, I was walking down the stairs into my backyard, slipped on an acorn, fell onto the pine straw, and rolled down the hill. When I finally stopped, one ankle was twisted behind me and the other one bent in front of me. I lay there thinking there is no way I’m going to be able to stand on the pine straw in my blinged-out wedge flip-flops. The surface of pine straw is slippery even in the most practical footwear. Fortunately, my friend was in the backyard and heard me fall. After checking to see if I was okay, we both laughed as we tried to figure out how I was going to stand up.

After a bit of deliberation, I grabbed onto my friend’s arm and slowly straightened one foot and then the other. Amazingly, I was able to bear weight on both ankles. Though I felt the initial soreness from the fall, adrenaline prevented me from feeling the real pain.

Reluctantly, I changed into a pair of flat flip-flops. The shoes I was wearing looked better with my outfit and prevented my jeans from dragging the ground, but I had a ton of errands to run and feared I might really hurt myself walking around in high heels.

I took both dogs to the vet, straightened up the house, and went to my acupuncture appointment. The fall seemed to have little effect on me until I lay on the table to receive my treatment. Both ankles throbbed and ached like crazy. It didn’t surprise me when the acupuncturist informed me both of my ankles were sprained. It made sense considering the way they were sprawled in different directions. She gave me some herbs to reduce the swelling and then told me I needed to wear a more supportive shoe than flip-flops. I left her office more annoyed that she challenged my flip-flops than the fact that both of my ankles were sprained.

Admittedly, I have a shoe fetish. Nothing makes me happier than strolling through Nordstrom’s shoe department. I rarely leave empty-handed. Consequently, I have more shoes than I would ever publicly document. I made that mistake once when I shared the number with my husband. I thought he would find it amusing. He didn’t. He just uses it to keep a running tally. Needless to say, I love shoes. And of all the shoes I have, flip-flops are my absolute favorite. Since we moved to Atlanta, I wear them nine months out of the year in Atlanta. I have a variety of colors and styles. When I put on a pair of flip-flops, a sense of freedom washes over me. I’m relaxed and open. I feel more creative. I just want to have fun. It’s a whole flip-flop mindset.

This may be a stretch, but I think the flip-flop mindset can be applied to writing. Creativity is at its best when we allow ourselves the freedom to be playful with our craft.

I wouldn’t describe myself as naturally playful. I’ve been thinking a lot about how to be more playful and have more fun. I get mired in the yuck of the subjects that I write about. So, I challenged myself to participate in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month). I decided to try my hand at a semi-romance (not a real genre, but who cares). Anyway, I had so much fun just playing with my characters and the storyline. I began to wonder why I didn’t write like that more often.

Then it occurred to me, I write like a pair of practical shoes.

I’m too considered about personal comfort. I’m confined to a fixed process, style, and voice, because it has worked in the past. I don’t let myself experiment. And while there are times when practical shoes are appropriate, there are other options.

Sometimes you need to be like a pair of sneakers to withstand the hard work of revision.

Other times you need to slip on a sexy pair of pumps to make your writing elegant and sleek. And then there are times when you need to put on a pair of flip-flops to have some fun. Understanding your mindset and what works best for the time is an important part of building your confidence as a writer.

T I have been wearing a pair of shoes I would have never bought if both ankles weren’t sprained. When I look down at my feet, I groan at their lack of style and the fact that I can’t see my toes. But when I walk, I realize I am wearing the appropriate type of shoes for my current situations. As writers, we have to be adaptable to where we are mentally, emotionally, and physically. Wearing the right mindset can be as important as the right pair of shoes.

The Writing Life

My Version of the Truth

I’ve been haunted by the word truth.

It first caught my attention when I saw an email from She Writes (a social media website for women writers) about my first Goddard advisor, Rahna Reiko Rizzuto. The blurb about her post “A Radical Act” included the following quote: “We women writers need to tell the truth about our lives.  It’s not a hobby or an indulgent luxury that we sit down to our desks and write. It is a service, a path-showing, a community we create for others.”

I didn’t click on the link even though I had been questioning rather or not I was being honest in my writing. I first began to ponder the idea when Reikko was my advisor at Goddard College. Her comments on my work helped me to realize I can be a writing prude. I’m uncomfortable writing about certain topics. Whenever I got too close to the certain truths, I back off.

Reikko’s memoir, Hiroshima in the Morning, received a lot of press because it chronicled her decision to leave her family to pursue her career as a writer. I remember watching her interview on The Today Show and thinking I could never be that honest.

Apparently God had a message for me. The next day I went to a writer’s conference, put on by the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Atlanta Women Writers Group, called “Getting in Touch with the Source”. The keynote speaker, Pearl Cleage (the author of What Looks Like Crazy on an Ordinary Day, an Oprah Book Club selection), started her talk by saying, “Seek the truth and speak the truth.”

I knew it wasn’t a coincidence. I had to admit that I neither sought the truth nor wrote the truth.

Take a look at a scene from Something’s Gotta Give. I see my writing sort of like Jack Nicholson’s character. I write a version of the truth.

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Unfortunately, just like Diane Keaton’s character remarks, truth doesn’t have versions. We either aren’t honest or we water things down. And that doesn’t make very interesting or good writing.

As writer’s we have to risk losing ourselves. That may mean diving into uncomfortable topics or deep emotional wells. Remember the next five minutes of the movie after Diane Keaton leaves Jack Nicholson where she sobs continually as she finishes her play? She was writing from truth.

Writing from truth is hard. We have to leave our comfort zone. We risk exposing our inner thoughts and fears. It leads us to places we’d rather forget. It confronts us with facts we’d rather ignore. But as Reikko said in her post, “We women writers need to tell the truth about our lives.” Honest writing empowers us as writers and gives courage to our readers. And I believe that’s why God gave us the desire to write.

I went back and read Reikko’s post. She hoped her decision to tell the truth about her motherhood would open a dialogue. But the media tried to shut her down. She stood by her truth, and as a result, she received email from several women who shared her struggle. Her words gave them a voice.

Who needs your words?

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The Power of Sharing

Finding the right balance between humor and appropriateness is a challenge in morning radio, especially when driving my fifteen-year-old daughter to school. I really enjoy listening to Elvis Duran and the Morning Show, but sometimes their conversation gets too graphic. So the other day I quickly changed it to my other regular morning show, Tom Joyner Morning Show and happened on a conversation about African-American programming in television. The commentator suggested African-Americans support the shows that are out rather than complaining about Hollywood’s limited representation of minorities. He used Alicia Keys’s directorial debut in the Lifetime movie Five as an example. The movie is an anthology of five short films directed by five different women: Demi Moore, Jennifer Aniston, Alicia Keys, Penelope Spheeris, Patty Jenkins, and Jeanne Tripplehorn. Each film chronicles the impact of breast cancer.

I don’t watch a lot of television, so I hadn’t heard about the movie prior to the spot on the radio. Nothing against Lifetime (well maybe a little), but I stopped watching their movies a long time ago. I found them too melodramatic. But I wanted to see Alicia Keys as well as Demi Moore and Jennifer Aniston in the role of director, so I watched it. I was also intrigued by the idea of an anthology of five short films. Well, let me tell you. The movie was amazing. I came away from it resolved to do two things: schedule a mammogram (I haven’t had one in two years) and get more active in the cause. If you haven’t seen it, you can watch Five online. I highly recommend it!!!

What I find most interesting about this experience is that if the commentator hadn’t shared his thoughts, I would have missed the movie. He promoted the film as a way to support Alicia Keys and her work. As writers, we have to promote other writers by sharing their work in our area of influence. Generally speaking, people are more willing to try something when someone they trust recommends it.

Though it may sound self-serving, I think this is particularly true in the blogging world. There is so many out there that it’s hard to sift through them all. I find myself much more likely to read a blog if a friend or a blogger I like recommends it. This has long been true with books. There are several things I would have never picked up if they hadn’t been recommended to me.  So in the spirit of promoting fellow writers here are a few things that I recommend you check out:

Witty Word is a blog written by Christi McGuire. I happened on it one day when I was looking for examples of writing blogs. She writes about her faith by sharing tidbits from her everyday life. I enjoy her passion for grammar (She’s an editor). And I’m particularly fond of her Wordless Weekend. Those pictures are sometimes just the break I need on a busy Saturday.

Helensadornmentblog is a blog written by a friend of mine, Helen Kemp. Helen is an artist who works with fused glass and lampwork glass. Her blog has beautiful pictures of her work as well as a description of her technique. Helen also writes post where she breaks down craft projects and scores them from 1 (you need Martha Stewart and her staff) to 5 (great fun). If I were more crafty, I would have tried a few of them myself.

I also want to recommend Home For Christmas written by my friend Deborah Grace Staley. Debbie writes the Angel Ridge Southern romance series, set in a small town in Tennessee. She won the Holt Medallion for Excellence in Mainstream Romance. It is currently available on Kindle as a free download.

These are just a few of the writers that I respect and admire. I will be sharing others. Leave a comment promoting writers, artist and films you admire so that I can add to my list.

Until next time.

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Motivating Word

ACTION

The process or state of acting or of being active.

But you are the only person alive who has sole custody of your life.Your particular life. Your entire life. Not just your life at a desk, or your life on the bus, or in the car, or at the computer. Not just the life of your mind, but the life of your heart. Not just your bank account, but your soul.

Anna Quindlen – A Short Guide to a Happy Life

Decide today to show up in your own life. Take action on that one thing you have been putting off.